No gimmicks, no games: a truer path to finding your soulmate

When I was single and starved for my soulmate in the ’90s, I consulted bestsellers like Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus and The Rules for tips on how to create a lasting relationship.  Now I find books and articles like those patently ridiculous, even offensive. Advice that reduces relationships to broad gender stereotypes and game-playing is harmful rather than helpful. 

Last night, nearly 100 callers listened to the free Soulmate Teleconference I co-hosted with my husband, Steven Barnes (and Mushtaq Ali Al Ansari), and we discussed the process of finding one’s soulmate that worked for us: the soul-searching that begins within, and the hard work on the path to self-realization.    As a psychic once told me, “Become who you’re supposed to become–that’s when you’ll meet your man.”  Whether or not she had a true gift, her advice was wholly true.  I finished my novel and met Steve at a writer’s conference.  

If I had not embraced my writing dream AND embarked on a journey of self-repair and reflection, I would not have been in the right place or right mindset to meet Steve. 

To listen to the 90-minute teleconference free, CLICK HERE.  Listener response has been very enthusiastic. 

But the teleconference was just the first step in introducing our Soulmate Process course that lays out our most important principles toward creating lasting love in your life.  Steve and Mushtaq have spent years developing this course, compiling information and resources that can create true change.  My contribution is as Steve’s partner–and I tell my very candid story of my past relationships and the seemingly uncanny way that separate preparations brought Steve and I to each other. 

Whether it’s refining your definition of a “soulmate,” setting goals, taking responsbility for your relationship history or just having the courage to have faith, this is a step-by-step program to help you find lasting love.  And the course is on a SPECIAL HOLIDAY SALE PRICE until Jan. 1. 

Check out The Soulmate Process here:  www.soulmateprocess. com

If you are already in a happy relationship, please pass the link along to a friend.  

HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!! 

 

FREE TELECONFERENCE Dec. 16: How we found love…and you can too!

In 1997, I met my now-husband and collaborator Steven Barnes at a speculative fiction conference at Clark Atlanta University.  Octavia E. Butler and Samuel Delany, who were also there, later told us they giggled together at our blooming love connection.  It was that obvious.

Steve and I practically knew each other on sight.  We were holding hands at the airport as we went to separate ends of the country to begin our 18-month courtship by email and telephone. Fifteen years ago, we married in my parents’ living room.

It happened so fast.  It seemed so…easy.

With the love of my life, Steven Barnes, at a birthday celebration in 2008.

But in fact, I had waited a long time to find my Mr. Perfect.  And I’d waited in misery.

In junior high school, I waited.  In high school, I waited.  In college—while classmates paired, some of them for life—still I waited.  I didn’t have a boyfriend until I was 24, and that four-year relationship was my only one before I met Steve.  I lived alone my entire adult life, until I married Steve at 33.

I tried a psychic.  I wrote a Dating Column for The Miami Herald, working on my issues and publicizing my dating adventures every other week.  I weathered annoying advice:  “You’ll find him when you’re not looking.”  (That was sort of true, but annoying nonetheless.)

I made mistakes.  Huge mistakes.  And I learned.

But what brought me to my soulmate was not fate or luck: it was preparation.  I took specific steps to be ready for love.  Without my preparation, I would not have been ready to meet Steve.  I would have backed away from him the moment he shined his eyes at me.

Steve and I later learned that we had taken similar steps to prepare ourselves for each other, creating a process for finding our soulmates.  For years, we have talked sharing our process and what we learned, and Steve tested every piece of it with his private students.  And now, finally, we’re teaching the basics of the SOULMATE PROCESS in a FREE teleconference at 9 p.m. ET, 6 p.m. PT MONDAY, Dec. 16.

We originally had space for 96 participants, but the spaces filled so quickly that we have changed the venue to make more room.  To participate, simply sign up at www.soulmateconference.com.

Why will our journeys matter to you?  Because we do not believe we are unique.  We believe others can do what we did.  And we want to share what we have learned.

What is a soulmate?

The term will have different meanings to different people.  To me, a soulmate is not THE person you are meant to be with, but A person who shares your values, dreams and hopes…with whom you can create a committed, passionate partnership for life.

I know people who have been blessed with new love after tragic loss.

After they have been horribly hurt.

After they have not had role-models for healthy relationships.

And I believe you can find a soulmate too.

Please register today!  Once you sign up, call-in information will be sent to you.  The teleconference is free.  If you are already in a happy relationship, please pass this note on to your friends.

Love isn’t a myth.  It isn’t something that only happens on TV and movies.  It isn’t something only for “other people.”

If you’re looking for love in 2014, take your first step tomorrow.

www.soulmateconference.com

Talk to you soon!